I have enjoyed many books by Fredrik Backman over the years, but My Friends is my favorite, by far - which is impressive when you realize I gave two other Backman books 5 stars (Anxious People and A Man Called Ove).
My Friends is about the indelible bond of childhood friends; your first found family who know and see all of you - your truths, your lies, your triumphs, your pain, your quirks - and who love you anyway. I was instantly in love with the characters in this story and their unfailing love for and support of one another. The journey that this book takes you on will inspire you, break your heart, and stitch it back together again page by page. I laughed out loud, I cried, I gasped in surprise… there is not a moment of this book that I didn’t love.
Not just about friendship, as if that wouldn’t be enough, My Friends is also about the beauty and healing power of art and how it connects people. Backman’s writing in this book is its own art - painting a vivid picture of each scene, the characters and their feelings. In some ways the writing reminds me of Markus Zusak’s The Book Thief; it paints a picture of a time filled with pain and it handles difficult subjects with beauty and empathy.
I found it impossible to read this book without thinking about my own childhood friends - those kids I spent 8 weeks with every summer at camp who, 40 years later, are still some of my favorite humans. Who would I be without them and our experiences together, after all?
Read this book. Thank me later.
Thank you to Atria Books, NetGalley and the author for the advance reader copy. My Friends will be published on May 6, 2025.
While this wasn’t particularly like any of the other Fredrik Backman books I’ve read, My Friends was told with signature Backman style—with intuitive understanding of human sociology and psychology, with astute commentary on behaviors that humans shouldn’t be proud of, and with a good dose of humor and relatability. This novel particularly focused on the beauty of otherness. Backman took people who were considered to be outsiders, weird, and undesirable and wrote about their humanity, their art, their vulnerability, and their love and loyalty to each other and others like them.
Louisa grabbed my attention right off the bat. She was a complicated, yet hopeful, teenager struggling to survive. The interplay between her and Ted was charming and funny, despite its awkwardness. Louisa was slowly able to pull out Ted’s story and share her own, bringing them closer together during their adventure.
While I enjoyed the book, I did often feel that it was repetitive and long winded. I felt like Backman laid it on pretty thickly in relaying his message. I mean, it was a good message. It was just lots of the same message over and over.
I found it interesting that the book title is “My” Friends. Was Backman referring to his own life story? I also never understood why the name of the artist was withheld for so long. I assume there was a point to the timing of the revelation but I couldn’t figure it out. I’m planning to see Backman soon in person and I hope he discusses this.
Thank you to NetGalley and Atria Books for this opportunity to read a galley of this new novel by an author I admire. My Friends will be published on May 6, 2025.







